How the Words We Use With Children Influence Their Self-Esteem

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Traditionally, this phrase has been recited by parents and educators to foster resilience against bullying. New findings, however, indicate that this saying is not only misleading but also perilously incorrect. Recent research suggests that verbal abuse during childhood inflicts mental harm comparable to physical aggression, and in some instances, the psychological damage may be greater.A study published in BMJ Open reveals that one in three children experiences verbal abuse, affecting their mental health with increased rates of anxiety and depression. Professor Mark Bellis from Liverpool John Moores University found that children suffering verbal mistreatment are deeply vulnerable, exhibiting a 64% higher risk of low well-being in adulthood versus a 52% elevated risk from physical abuse. As society increasingly acknowledges the significance of words, it is essential to rethink our approach towards language used in discipline and education to safeguard mental well-being effectively.